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\n<\/a><\/p>\n

There is a quote that scalded my reality when I touched it and has left a scar that continues to be sensitive to my touch.<\/p>\n

In, \u201cThe Secret of St. Francis of Assisi<\/a>,\u201d Christian Bobin speaks of the look between lovers; you know, that unflinching stare that breaks the padlocked virginity of all social scripts and sends us diving into an invigorating pool of momentary union and sinking bliss.<\/p>\n

I think (and hope) we\u2019ve all swam in the pond of a loved ones eyes before. And Christian Bobin says of this stare:<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2026with the full light of your eyes, you will endow me with the certainty that I exist.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Somehow the first part of this statement baits me with the vision of a calm, romantic and ripple-less lake when suddenly a comma belly flops the sentence by following with a terrifyingly accurate accusation that sprays stinging saltwater in my eyes.<\/p>\n

My eyes tear up and as I rub the sting away — I see it — but still don\u2019t believe it.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s right!<\/p>\n

Perhaps I am exceptionally egotistical in comparison to my fellow love-questing comrades, but I think Bobbin has completely nailed me on this one; a good portion of my ache for attached love walks hand in hand with a craving for those moments when someone (mother, lover or child) looks at me with such confirming eyes that I finally feel certainly (but oh too temporarily) to exist!<\/p>\n

But what a terrible realization! To love only to be loved? To imagine our most intimate, soul-speaking and unblinking wordless exchanges broken down to annoyingly bantering:<\/p>\n

\u201cYou exist.\u201d
\n\u201cNo silly, YOU exist.\u201d
\n\u201cNo you exist!\u201d
\n\u201cNo you really, really exist!\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh, groan. That\u2019s one mad-hatter merry-go-round I don\u2019t want a turn on.<\/p>\n

So where else to turn?<\/p>\n

The mirror? Where a merely two-dimensional vision measured by only one of six (or more) senses suddenly holds the gavel to determine my being as not-guilty of existing?<\/p>\n

And if indeed (as I believe) the face in the mirror is only representative of a wink in the eye of my lifetimes, then is it any wonder that I walk from mirror to mirror, tapping on the glass to ask, \u201cAnd just WHO are you?\u201d with answers constantly revolving, but never sufficing? Why don\u2019t I as well ask the pimple on my forehead what it is? Perhaps it would say, \u201cNothing but a present and passing expression of long line of pores come and gone.\u201d<\/p>\n

(I really must be stopped when I start speaking for pimples.)<\/p>\n

So what\u2019s left of this rant?<\/p>\n

I look back and choose two words: \u201cmomentary union.\u201d<\/p>\n

Perhaps the repetitive bantering and mirror-tapping will stop if I simply step out of the tunnel vision of my life\u2026
\nto bask in the full light of any<\/strong><\/em> and all<\/strong><\/em> others\u2019 eyes\u2026
\nwhere I might there be endowed\u2026
\nwith the certainty that we<\/strong><\/em> exist\u2026
\nand are, in fact\u2026
\n(timelessly and simultaneously)
\none<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

*****<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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